Deception in Relationships

Brushaud Stanislaus 

     I find the main key of the Dark Side of Communication is deception.  The MTV television shows Catfish most definitely. There will always be good outcomes and bad but it seems based on the show that most outcomes are horribly bad. Deception is such a strong issue to the point where 60% of people believe it has a place in a relationship to a tiny 20% who agree one should never lie. Those are depressing facts and play a huge role in the morality of most online communication users who participate on the dark side. Because of these people; trust being an important foundation in relationships, are putting relationships in jeopardy. 

     In season 3 episode 7 all of these factors came into one relationship.  A girl named Solana was in contact with a person on Myspace which developed into an online relationship.  But suddenly the guy disappeared for a few years. Suddenly he shows up back in her life but this time she is already in a relationship.  She contacts the guys of Catfish to help her get to the bottom of her situation because there were too many red flags and she could not decide with who she wanted to take a chance with. In the she did actually meet the guy his name is Elijah but a lot of concerns are brought forward for food for thought.  This girl was in a committed relationship with someone who wanted to take the next step yet she was contemplating a life and relationship with someone online.  Though Elijah was slightly altruistic with her in the beginning because he was afraid to meet there left level of commitment issues faced with both Elijah and her current boyfriend.

     I felt that her current boyfriend had to deal with a lot of demons of this relationship because he actually had the strength to be okay with Solana venturing off to potentially pursue Elijah. Personally I don’t think I would have it in me to be able to let a love one do that. But I guess it matters in the severity of the relationship as well. What Solana could have done was lie about the entire thing but she was honest with him and kept everything upfront and held nothing back. This was great for developing their relationship because there would have been fatal consequences if lying became a part of the relationship.  He would have been hurt, suspicious, and the lack of trust would most certainly diminish to non-existent.  

      Solana did decide to stay with her current boyfriend but she did decide to stay close friends with Elijah and they also received matching tattoos to represent their promise to each other to stay close.   

     There are many faults in this entire relationship which I need not get into for the sake of this blog but my main fact is that deception could bring a relationship to some weird places.  Due to this relationship it caused many issues in the relationship especially with her boyfriend having to trust this will not happen again.  His guard I would say would be up and the closeness of their relationship would diminish. Though they are currently married the tattoo will always be a reminder to both Solona and Danny her now husband what could have been.